The Power of Parental Love (1)

Jun 8, 2020

‘Isaac…loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.’Genesis 25:28 NIV

How your children turn out says more about your parenting skills than about their genes! The story of Esau and Jacob is a case study in favouritism, sibling rivalry, conditional acceptance and parental failure (Genesis 25–27). The twin boys are as different as chalk and cheese. Esau is the nature-loving, sportsman type. Jacob is the quiet, home-loving, sensitive type. Personalities so diverse challenge our parenting skills. But the crucial difference wasn’t between these two boys, it was between the parents, and between the parents and the boys. Isaac and Rebekah, as parents, were not united; they did not love unconditionally! ‘Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau.’ There’s the central point of their family dysfunction! Dad ‘loved’ based on his conditions. If Esau brought home the meat, he was loved. There are basically three kinds of love: love if you meet my need; love because you have met my need and love in spite of, requiring nothing from you—God’s kind of love, the love children need from parents. Selfish parenting requires children to constantly prove they’re worthy of our love. Isaac’s was love if—and because—Esau met his needs. But conditional love is like probation. Its temporary approval and earned favouritism leave our children feeling, ‘If I don’t do and be what you want, you’ll reject me.’ It breeds insecurity, inadequacy, anxiety, deceit, depression and self-destructive ideas in children. School reports, looks, gifts and abilities have nothing to do with love. That said, your child’s performance and attitude are likely to improve significantly from knowing they’re loved unconditionally.

SoulFood: Rev 5–9, Mark 14:53–6, 5 Ps 48, Pro 13:2–3
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