Don’t Jump to Conclusions

‘I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue…’ Psalm 39:1 NAS We all fail from time to time, even the best of us. When John D Rockefeller ran the Standard Oil Company one of his senior executives made a mistake that cost over US$2,000,000. The other...

Overcoming Perfectionism

‘I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved…perfection!’ Philippians 3:12 NLT If you let it, perfectionism will rob you of peace, plus the joy of whatever you’ve accomplished so far. The sportswear manufacturer Fila took out a full-page ad in a newspaper...

If You Love Them, Level with Them (3)

‘…each part…helps the other parts grow…’ Ephesians 4:16 NLT A good mentor will affirm in public, and correct in private. Your goal should be to help, not hurt. When you tell someone off in public you humiliate them, destroying their self-esteem. But when...

If You Love Them, Level with Them (2)

‘…each part…helps the other parts grow…’ Ephesians 4:16 NLT When you confront somebody, be specific, and don’t generalise. For example, don’t say, ‘You’re always abrupt and unfriendly.’ Instead, being specific, say, ‘I feel you were rather abrupt with Mrs...

If You Love Them, Level with Them (1)

‘…each part…helps the other parts grow…’ Ephesians 4:16 NLT None of us enjoys confronting others, but sometimes it must be done. So be honest and direct. Tenderness is not a matter of being diplomatic or tactful, or using vague language that ‘beats around...